Every ounce of me wants to parent with unconditional love, so why is it difficult at times?  Conditions of “safety first” and sanitation are foremost in my consciousness.  Also, I want kids to show respect.  Even simplified goals, such as these are not simple in practice.  So, I question:  what has love got to do with it?

Love is the essence of being…

Can this theory apply to every life lesson?  As I learn to love parenting, I am challenged to live in love.  I want to spread healing love over myself and my children.  How?

Here is what I have found as truth.  If I am performing household chores, with a love for tidiness, then kids are likely to help.  If I am gardening, with love for earth’s sweetness, then kids are likely to help.  As soon as I am out of balance, looking for help from the kids, they stare at me.  If I am not showing love, they are opposed to the idea that they should help in any way, shape or form.

Purpose and clarity seem to come from balanced living and love.  I recently gained clarity from an experience with Tantra Yoga.  Daily, I am practicing a bit of Tantra.

Tantra Yoga is blissful.  I uncovered a special guide, who understands passion.  Her words are insightful.  She is lovely; and I am closer to living in love, due to a single encounter with her.  Go ahead and view her work at http://www.theworldoftantra.com/

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Over the last month, I have devised a new way to spank my kids.  It is not equivalent to the, “love pat.”  Modern spanking, in my house, involves lots of love and total compassion.  The spanking is delivered lightly and without injury.  There is only one goal behind the spanking:  laughter.

I say, “Rapid-Fire Spank Bottom!”  …whenever, I sense a change in disposition is necessary.  I am serious; I am not accepting their current behavior!

Communication is key to positive discipline and relationships…  However, kids are not always open for discussion.  My boys seem to love this interaction.  First, the spanking is delivered.  Second, we are both laughing.  After we settle down, we discuss optional ways to achieve their goal(s).

I do not spank, if I have an ounce of anger or fear.  I believe my kids desperately search my intentions.  I want them to understand my spanking is a diversion from unwanted behavior.  Skipping the battle of wills and power struggle, we are laughing into the next moment.  After the spanking session, they are ready to listen; or they are ready for a time-out.

Do you think this type of approach is healthy?  Instead of spanking or squeezing a wrist to get their attention, I am basically tickling them into submission.  Laughter leads to positive discussions.

Most panels and posts on spanking children for disciplinary purposes agree that physical harm is not the best means of getting a point across.  I believe positive discipline and laughter are my best means of parental influence…  Spanking is just for fun.

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